Why does my kids think i'm a cheap dad.?

Ok I have 2 kids. One is 15 and one is 13. They always think I am cheap mostly the girl 15 year old. They always saying that I don't buy good soda and that we eat at mcdonalds too much. They complain that I never buy them drinks or fries at mcdonalds and I always buy cheap everything. Why do they care? I buy cheap sodas, cheap drinks, cheap food, the cheapest clothes at the goodwill. I know people cheaper than that. They also complain saying they never been to papa johns since my son's friend had papa johns 4 years ago. But it is to expensive.Like 12 or 10 dollars for a large pizza is insane! They complain that little ceasers taste too bad compare to papa johns. Also I grounded my son for a week for asking for 5 gum when it is the most expensive gum ever. Even my own wife thinks I cheap!



How can my wife think that? She complains that she doesn't have a good phone. All she has is a mingo while I have a cell phone from 2004. So why does my family think i'm cheap?Why does my kids think i'm a cheap dad.?
Okay. LOL, you are awesome. I was an only child and my parents gave me the most expensive of anything I wanted. Then I married a "cheapskate," and - let me tell you - it I. was a very difficult adjustment.

I think I can see both sides to to this problem.

First, you're doing the right thing. You're doing your best to manage your family's resources so that they can get the most. That's the right thing for you to be doing, and it's the right thing for my husband to be doing, too.

BUT the both of you still catch hell for it.:)

Kids just hate generic stuff. Period. So they're going to do and say what they're doing and saying no matter what. I read an article - Melinda Gates said that even her and Bill's kids want ipods - and she has to say, "You may have a Zune."

The only thing I can think of is that - with our kids - my attitude as a wife %26amp; mom can make or breake my husband's credibility. I was spoiled, like I mentioned - if I give in to that, and complain about cheap stuff, the kids feel vindicated. If I focus on my husband's stewardship, and support him in front of the kids - they are more likely to (reluctantly) accept his cheapness.

So make sure you get your wife on board. Even if she's not spoiled, her outward expression of support might help a lot. Then - you might be able to give them a little freedom to pick the place to eat or choose the gum - but let them know, that it'll mean one meal out instead of two, or one pack of gum instead of three, etc.

I know one family that makes the kids buy their junk food with their own money. We have a friend who thought Goodwill was called "Girl's World" until she could read - and shopped there with her mom for clothes as long as she can remember. She is one of the nicest, most down-to-earth people we know. By the way, she makes, like, 80 grand as a physical therapist for old people now. It turns out that her parents were loaded and she never knew.

Again, though - I can't stress this enough, you are doing your kids a BIG favor. It took me a good ten years of budgetary restriction and finally a good three years of shopping at Goodwill myself - and going without pizza and gum and everyting - before I even could begin to conceptualize the value of money. They'll be ready for the real world.

Oh - but my husband? I like to get an extra large unsweet tea at Bojangles when I am thirsty. If he's with me, he makes us order a half gallon instead - and he orders two waters with it. We have to drink the waters, and then he pours the tea in the cups. IN the drive-through. I, of course, complain that the tea isn't as good, but he asked the people who worked there (through the drive-through speaker), and they said it all came from the same place. Nice.

Dang, now I feel like finding some change, getting an xl unsweet tea and stopping by Goodwill to see what's happening...Why does my kids think i'm a cheap dad.?
You appear to have erred in bringing up them from the beginning. See now they are in the process of growing up. Before it is too late, speak out openly and coolly about balancing 'income' and 'expenditure' in the lives. Take their opinion and seek suggestions for overall improvement of family. Let them understand how difficult it is to earn and how to lead balanced life. Behave yourself before the family members. Admit your wrongs and listen to their souls. Things automatically will change. Wish you Good going!
"becuz u tak all ghetto"Why does my kids think i'm a cheap dad.?
What I think is that you're a troll, and not a very imaginative one.
You grounded your son for asking for gum? That's ridiculous, ps work on your grammar.Why does my kids think i'm a cheap dad.?
Because we live in a materialistic world, we鈥檙e constantly bombarded with adverts everywhere for products, if you lived in an isolated region with no knowledge of the outside world I bet your kids would be happy and content with their lives.
Because you are!



Is there something you're saving for? Is there a reason you don't want to allow for a little self-indulgence now and again?





Look, being frugal is a choice. If you're going to press this choice on your family, they have the right to know why. You have the right to know why!
Probably because you are cheap. Though, personally, I don't see anything wrong with that. To be honest, though, I suspect you're just trolling for attention, trying to offend people.

And incidentally... Papa John's is nasty, nasty pizza. If you're ever in the mood to splurge and pay that much for pizza, at least go somewhere decent. Even Pizza Hut is better than that garbage.
I thought Asians were smart and have good jobs like doctors or dentists so they are rich and can afford expensive things.
Yes you are cheap.. and so am i..and i don't think that is a bad thing let me recommend 2 things



1-share with your wife and your children what your ultimate goals are so they can see the bigger picture ie. being able to buy a bigger house, go on vacation.. or being able to retire without depending on them to support you in retirement



2-every once in awhile get them something that they want..alot of times you can get something expensive at the same price as the cheaper version ..it will just cost you time in research or better yet if you know that your budget is for example for a pair of shoes is 30 dollars give them a time frame to search for shoes they like for 30 or less before you make that selection for them



ps what does race have to do with it anyway i'm black... it's all about thinking about the future and trying to accomplish more with what you have
You actually had me until the part where you said you grounded your son for asking for 5 gum lol