Daughters Father Lies! Doesn't REALLY Take Care of HER!?

Okay, so my daughters father and i have a visitation schedule set up, he gets her 2x a week for at least four hours, and he can have her anytime at work, the whole time if he wants her,and he gets her every other weekend. So thats a wonderful amount of visitation, however i work in a hospital and make almost twice his salary, he works at little ceasers, which is fine at least hes working, he pays child support the best he can and i really appreciate the help. BUT whenever he has visitation for my daughter, he drops her off with his mom and goes out with his friends, then his mother lies when i get there saying he just left when i see him out all over the place. I work all day everyday to support my child and i'd love to have the amount of time he is REWARDED with her. I want to take him back to court to revisit visitation, but am i just being selfish? Or would you do the same. I'd love to have more time with my daughter, weekends are my time off so him not spending them with her when i'm dying to hurts me.



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I would be doing the same as you and no you aren't being selfish, HE IS!



It is too bad his own mother has to cover for him. Sooner or later somewhere along the line your Daughter will see that her Grandmother is like this and that is a bad example she is setting for your child as she gets older. The woman should not even be involved in her son's "schemes" as this is just wrong; SO wrong.



Anyway, definately drag your Ex back into Court. For sure they will see that this man is being irresponsible and will probably reduce the visitation or alter it somehow.



Best wishes with this.Daughters Father Lies! Doesn't REALLY Take Care of HER!?
Yes if I was in your position I would go back to court.Dropping your child of with his mother and not spending any time with her is wrong.The grandmother is getting time but he is using his time to go out with his friends instead of investing it in his daughter.Just my thoughts,go with your gut feeling,it usually is right on!Daughters Father Lies! Doesn't REALLY Take Care of HER!?
I would most definitely go back to court and ask that the visitation be changed. I am sure your ex husband has an unusual work schedule too if he is working at Little Caesars. If he has the child and must go to work, he should bring her back to you when he goes. He should not leave her with him mom for long periods of time. I agree with the grandmother being able to see the child but she could come to your place to visit or visitation could be set for her for a few hours a week. You may have to prove that he is leaving her at his mom's for long periods of time so find out what kind of proof you need to substantiate your charges before you do anything else. Good luckDaughters Father Lies! Doesn't REALLY Take Care of HER!?
From what you are saying you are lucky that you aren't giving him alimony, so I suppose you weren't married.

You can start a battle, have a detective photograph him leaving her with his mother and going out. But you know what, if you don't say anything at all, in time he will just stop coming around wanting to take his daughter at all. The poor parent loses interest, especially if he now thinks hes getting under your skin by taking her. I've seen more fathers keep up with visitations if they think they are annoying their baby's mother, than actually want to keep up with visitation.

If you are on fairly good terms with the grandmother, offer to just take the baby over to her, grandmas are good for babies, and if the grandma is worried about seeing her granddaughter speaking to Grandma herself about continuing her visits might get her to feel more comfortable with telling the truth about her sons lack of interest.